Brief Rant on Relationships

The biggest part of any relationship is communication. I don't care if you're boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, affianced, sisters, brothers, bffs etc.....if you don't have a good communication level it probably is a very rocky relationship with trust issues. Talk about everything and anything this includes all non-verbal communication as well. You don't want to give off the wrong signals. The more you communicated to more comfortable you'll be when there's those sticky issues you need to discuss. things that you might not feel that comfortable w/at first will be easier to talk about.
The above is what I posted to my Facebook and it got me thinking even more. My fiancé responded with “I say all relationships are maintained with carefully orchestrated lies and half truths. Ask and old married couple. They will tell you.” So how should I feel about that???? What the heck is up with our communication? I screwed up in the early years of our relationship with lies and hiding information and tons of secrets. Since then I like to be honest but am I not supposed to?
No this isn’t one of those post about relationships was just thinking about it. A friend of mine who we will call Meagan has just gotten married and has since found a guy that she is sexually attracted to. She is being tempted and doesn’t know how to react so she asked about a few things. I told her the truth and advised her to talk to her husband and see what happens. She would not be able to keep it a secret and knowing him……well…..he might not be too happy. Possibly a bit violently not happy and I do not want to be part of that. Ya know plausible deniability. If you cheat it isn’t good. Getting emotionally involved it will end bad where as letting him know that there might be a need for some new flavor it’ll be a lot easier. I do not condone sleeping around when you’re in any committed relationship but I do recommend letting your other half know that there may be a need for something a little extra. The idea of wanting to be with someone else sometimes stems from lack of excitement in the bedroom. Personally it takes a lot to be sexually attracted to another man. It has been years. If it happens I will tell my fiancé. I won’t go jumping another guys bones. If I need to then we’ll discuss it. Sometimes you just need to fuck someone else and get it out your system. Biggest rule DO NOT GET EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED. Ok got that out of my system. I feel better.

****Side note I love him b/c he gets me. I can talk to him about anything from what I’m reading to magick to the economy and everywhere in between. I don’t have to be someone else. He is the only person who I can be me in front of no matter how much it shows my weirdness. I can belch, cry and spit in front of him and it doesn’t matter.

These Times

The times are supposed to be so free and understanding but it seems that we have not advanced at all. One man with PTSD kills a few people and b/c of his nationality he's a terrorist. When another white man who also suffers from PTSD is assumed to be christian kills more people and his family but is just criminally insane. Hmmm?? A woman can kiss another woman or even have intercourse and its acceptable but a man briefly kisses another man and its sinful and wrong. Hmmm?? A middle aged woman likes the men very young and she gets a cool nickname. A man likes a younger woman and hes a pervert. Hmmmm??? Double standards much. There can't be acceptance with a clause. You accept people as they are or you don't. You believe everyone can live their life as they wish or you hate.

Be real to yourself don't lie b/c you don't want to be judged. Then when you're with your own kind say what you really mean. That makes you two faced. Be true to your own beliefs and never change your mind b/c you think those around you will find it unacceptable. Your views are yours and we are not going to judge just b/c you don't agree with us. I hate stereotypes but that doesn't mean just b/c your friends are that I hate your friends I just won't deal with them. I understand that they want to be cliche and predictable. I work in a christian world 24/7 but I don't let them dictate who I'm going to be. We work to not offend but it might make for a complicated relationship.

In this world there are situations that will make you very uncomfortable and we get that. Just know that you are not alone. Let go of the double standards and judge everyone the same b/c its only fair. When we judge you we're judging you just like we judged the person before you.

First tale of vacation...

So my trip to NOLA. One of the best trips ever and my first real vacation. That city is full of history. I am a bit of a nerd so I was happy just walking around looking at the architecture and historical sights. It was beautiful. Being sensitive with a sixth sense it was an adventure. I now understand why it is one of the most haunted cities in America. It wasn’t bad haunts though. It was normal spirits just hanging out like people. It was awesome being in a city where the occult and esoteric is just second nature. They do not lie when they say that is a city full of vampires and other beings. Halloween is always the time when others come out and play because no one notices us. I fell in infatuation with another feline. The time that he had taken with his makeup and costume was marvelous. If I lived there I would’ve gotten rid of girlfriend and settled down. The closest anyone gets to physical shift is well applied prosthetics and makeup. He was gorgeous. There was another but she wasn’t put together as well. I’ll post pictures when I can get everything together.

Sum up my music life.

I am that rocker chick with a hip-hop soul and an emo heart line dancing in my fishnets and motorcycle boots flashing the red gold and green underneath the disco ball headbanging while humming pop beats swinging my hips to the salsa rhythm of the night with my smudge proof line and body glitter strumming the four chords waving my hands in the air avoiding the flashing lights smoothing the wrinkles out the hot pink tutu hearing the violen whisper tomorrow may never come sharing kisses with whats-her-name bouncing on my toes cuz i want it that way. That's the way I like it.

Just got back from nola. Lots of interesting things. Ill have to blog when my nets back up. I had tried from the phone but even with a full qwerty it feels weird.

Vampires? Vampyres?

Myth....legend....reality......